What is CPRT?
CPRT stands for Child Parent Relationship Therapy. In this class, you as a parent will learn valuable skills used by the play therapist in order to build a better relationship with your child. Through the understanding of how to conduct a mini play session with your child at home, you will be able to assist your child and strengthen the most important relationship in your child’s life. You will learn the skills necessary to make this a special time of bonding between you and your child, including limit-setting, being with, and encouragement. CPRT puts you on the path to bring healing in your child’s life and develop a bond that will last.
Join us for a ten week CPRT class where you will learn skills essential to building a health and deeper relationship with your child. With the support of myself and other parents in the class, you will learn to use play therapy skills at home in order to prioritize your relationship with your child. We will be going through the CPRT manual by Garry Landreth and “How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk” by Adele Faber.
Should you take this class?
The short answer, if you are a parent, then YES. But more specifically, if you are struggling to connect with your child or your child is going through a difficult transition in life, both you and child could greatly benefit from this class. Through the course of this class, you will be conducting play sessions at home with you child and will receive feedback from me and other parents in the class. You will also be provided with all the materials in the workbook to assist you through this time.
You may be thinking, “How in world am I supposed to fit a 1.5 hour class, a 20 minutes play session, and reading for 10 weeks into my already busy schedule?” And my question is, “How can you not?” You are the most important person in the life of your child. And taking this class, learning how to strengthen that relationship is one of the most valuable things you can do for your child and for yourself. So do both yourself, your child, and your whole family a favor and sign-up for one these classes. You can join us for one of these classes every Wednesday from June 5 to August 14 at 10:30am-12:00pm or 6:00pm-7:30pm. You can sign-up by contacting the office at 817-723-1210 or email@example.com.
By: Kelsey Poskey, LPC-Intern at Compassion Counseling
Supervised by: Chris Covington, LPC-S
By: Linda “Mickey” Jensen, Practicum Counselor
Are you new to therapy or would you like to improve your role in the therapeutic process? Check out these helpful tips to learn a bit more about the therapeutic process.
- Get the most out of your session time…a therapy hour is actually 45 minutes, so plan to be early and make the most of your experience by allowing time to “catch your breath, collect your thoughts, and prepare for your session.”
- First order of business…take care of payment, insurance questions, and scheduling prior to the start of your session. It can feel a bit awkward to come out of a session after just having an emotional breakthrough to then have to change gears to make a payment and navigate a calendar. Do yourself a favor and get the business items out of the way before your session.
- Let the work begin…when you enter into therapy, you and your therapist are establishing what is called a therapeutic relationship.” So, once the business is done, next on the agenda is addressing any issues you may have regarding your relationship with your therapist. Maybe you felt angry after the last session, you’re thinking about ending therapy early, or you have been worrying about what the therapist thinks of you. Your thoughts and feelings about therapy and your relationship with your therapist are important because they will impact the whole therapy process. Make them a priority for discussion.
- You are the expert on you…therapy is more about helping you come to your own conclusions than having the therapist make decisions for you or give you advice. This may feel frustrating at times, but it will be beneficial to you in the long run.
- Do good work between sessions…therapy works best when you take what you’ve learned and apply it to the rest of your week. Between sessions, journal your reflections from your last session, complete the challenge provided by your counselor, and notice areas in your life you’d like to explore.
Taken from Psychology Today’s article “21 Tips for Clients in Psychotherapy: What Should You Talk About in Therapy?” by Ryan Howes, PhD, ABPP
Check out this link for the full article and additional helpful ideas: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/201005/21-tips-clients-in-psychotherapy
By: Katrina Land, Practicum Counselor
In the last year, I have begun working with children in foster care, along with the wonderful individuals who have chosen to give of their time, talents, and treasures to care for these wonderful–though perhaps challenging–children. The work of taking care of a child is challenging enough for a mother who has spent 9 months carrying a child in her womb, feeling the kicks, sacrificing sleep, and spending months in discomfort, but all of this leads to incredibly deep bonding with a child. By the time she delivers, the love has already grown to cover sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and the various individual challenges of each unique child. The fathers, who upon meeting their children for the first time, see a resemblance and understand that their own DNA is imprinted within this child’s being.
For those who choose to take on the task of caring for a child, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, without this genetic and time-tested bond, I have the utmost respect. The intentional choice to foster or adopt is a noble goal. The sad reality is that many assume that it will be similar to caring for a child of their own, but it’s not. The children who have come to need a foster home have some circumstance in their lives that have made it impossible for them to remain with their families – if they still have a family. This is a trauma, and as we know in the mental health field, trauma impacts neurological development.
A normal healthy attachment can become disrupted at this point, or perhaps there never was a healthy parental attachment to begin with. The mental, emotional, and physiological impact that this has on a child is significant. That’s why those who step in and provide foster care have such a huge role in the lives of these children. They are able to help the children process what is happening, or simply provide love and care that is needed for an indefinite period of time.
When you are caring for children, remember the following:
Every person’s story is unique, and it takes time for anyone, child or adult, to open up and trust someone with their story.
Work on your stuff.
Your perspectives from your own family of origin will impact how you treat children in your care, both positively and negatively.
Live in the moment.
Every time you take a minute to connect with a child has a positive impact.
Take care of yourself.
When you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, give yourself permission to take a break. Go for a walk, take a shower, read a book, find something that recharges you.
Know that you ARE making a difference!
“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” -Frederick Douglass
By: Sonja Jackson, LPC
I don’t think that it is just a coincidence that we celebrate Thanksgiving before Christmas. God knew what He was doing. During this time of year, we are bombarded with ad after ad telling us what new electronic gadget or piece of clothing we NEED. And not only that, we can get it at a great price. It is hard not to catch the I-wants, to long for the newest, greatest and best and to find yourself being discontent with that “old thing”, whatever it is. To help prevent ourselves from catching the I-wants, I encourage us get the I-have immunization. Begin now to give thanks for what we have already.
Even if life is full of challenges right now, we have many things for which to be thankful. Think about it. What do you already have? And ultimately who gave it to you? Look around. Do you have a home? Give God thanks for it. How about your family and friends? Give God thanks for them? Are you able to breath? Give God thanks for lungs that work and the air that you can breathe. Everything we have comes for the hand of a good and gracious God. Take time each day this month to write down one thing for which you are thankful.
[lôn(t)SH, län(t)SH]: set in motion by pushing it or allowing it to go; to send on it course
This is the end goal of all parenting. One day that baby you brought home from the hospital who was totally dependent on you for everything, will be an adult. An adult who will take on the responsibility and privilege of making decisions independent of you. While they are home, we prepare them for the launch. When they are grown, set them in motion. What does that look like? What is your role as a parent of an adult?
Look for the what is done well and encourage. Finishing college, job hunting, moving to a new city can be daunting task mixed with excitement, anticipation, fear and apprehension. Adult children need to be reminded of what they do well and encouraged to continue to practice those skills and talents.
Advise respectfully. Your adult son and daughter is now of an age that each is responsible for their decisions. They can no longer be commanded or controlled. When exactly is that age? The Bible gives some hint through varies references such as Numbers 1:3, that twenty years of age marks the beginnings of adulthood. They have opinions and ideas. Listen to them. Help them consider the consequences of their options. Share your ideas and the Biblical principle behind them, knowing he or she has the choice to heed or disregard. Remember that ultimately, your son or daughter is responsible to God for decisions that are made.
Under your roof still. There are numerous reasons why your adult son or daughter maybe living back at home – continuing college, seeking that career job, physical injury, saving for marriage. Whatever the reason, make sure to establish clear cut goals for that time at home. Have a plan. Review it regularly to assess progress and adjust as needed.
Never stop praying. The most valuable gift you can give your adult son and daughter is to seek God on their behalf. God is the only one who knows what is best for him or her. And He is the only one who can change a heart to be willing to trust, seek and obey Him. It is our great privilege to pray for our children their whole life long.
Change. Remember that your interaction with your adult son and daughter is to be different than it was when they were children. You are no longer the responsible party who demands obedience but a advisor who offers wise counsel. You have the opportunity now to be a friend. Embrace that change.
Helping with finances. It is a difficult decision whether to help your adult son or daughter when financial assistance is requested. A guiding principle would be to consider what is needed to truly help. Sometimes experiencing the consequences of a poor financial decision is what is needed to learn to handle funds more appropriately. Other times funds may need to be granted along with instruction and accountability. Ask God to help you discern what would be the best course of action for your adult son or daughter at the time.
If your children are young, training them now with the launch in mind. If you have adult children, set them in motion trusting God work in their hearts and yours.
This blog was written by Sonja Jackson, Licensed Professional Counselor at Compassion Counseling. She currently sees clients at the North Richland Hills location. Click here to learn more about Sonja!
Information gleaned from You Never Stop Being a Parent, Thriving in Relationship with Your Adult Children by Jim Newheiser and Elyse Fitzpatrick. Learn more about the book here You Never Stop Being A Parent
Credit: Leszek Glasner/Shutterstock
By: Heather Craig LPC-Intern
Autism Spectrum Disorder & Relationships
Individuals on the autism spectrum have difficulty with social ques, subtleties, and emotional reciprocity. Examples of social ques might be when to begin and end conversation, what topics are appropriate for the setting, as well as facial expressions and body language. Subtleties might be sarcasm, hints (like winking or other gestures), and even tone of voice. Emotional reciprocity is the ability to respond emotionally in an appropriate way. Maybe when someone is crying or angry. Do these inabilities mean those on the spectrum are not in or interested in relationships? Many times not. Those on the spectrum can share the same needs as neurotypical peers as it relates to attraction and the desire for connection with another human being. Although it may present differently and have a different expression.
Individuals with a diagnosis who are interested in relationships may need to pursue skills as it relates to social interactions, specifically as it relates to opposite sex or romantic endeavors. Emotional intelligence is paramount to relationships, especially romantic relationships. Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and communicate emotions within the self and others. This skill is a challenge for those on the spectrum and can create difficulty in relationships specifically with neurotypical individuals who many times more naturally pick up and express emotions.
Neurodiverse relationships, where one person is on the spectrum and another is not, can be particularly challenging. Behaviors such as interrupting, laughing at an inappropriate time, and pulling away from physical touch can appear to be inconsiderate, willful, and malicious to a neurotypical (someone not on the spectrum) individual. When in reality those on the spectrum are usually not willfully malicious and insensitive. Typically the person may have not picked up on a social que, missed a subtlety, or simply did not have the skill of emotional reciprocity to respond in an appropriate way. This can affect romantic relationships, as well as friends, and family.
If you are in a relationship with someone on the spectrum and find yourself hurt or offended by behaviors at times. Take a deep breath!
- Be patient
- Have empathy, sometimes you say and do things to hurt others
- Remind yourself the behavior was likely not intentional
- Communicate how you are feeling and why
- Educate your friend/family member on what your needs are and how they can meet them (they may want to, but not be sure how)
If you are on the spectrum and are in relationship with someone and find the person is frequently offended or angry with your behavior. Take a deep breath!
- Be patient
- Have empathy, you too are hurt at times by other people’s behavior
- Remind yourself while you may not have intentionally hurt the other person they are hurt
- Listen intently while the other person explains why they are hurt even if it doesn’t make sense to you
- Act on what the person asks to you do to meet their needs even if it is uncomfortable for you
Relationships are challenging. Nerodiverse relationships are especially challenging, but not impossible. If needed seek help! A great resource is a book by Eva A. Mendes, “Marriage and Lasting Relationships Asperger’s Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors.” Another option may be to seek help from a therapist or doctor to address your specific needs.
This blog is a collaboration of one of our Compassion counselors, Madelyn Murray, and her husband, Christopher Murray.
Money has always terrified me. There never seems to be enough of it…or at least it feels that way.
Money certainly has a way of making you think about something’s value.
There you have it. Two different thoughts when the word money is introduced into a conversation between husband and wife. The wife has a feeling about money, the husband has a thought about money. And people wonder why spouses often argue about money. Mixing emotions and logic rarely ends in a peaceful agreement! So, this blog is going shed some insight into what budgeting has done for the Murray marriage.
As Madelyn’s thought reveals, money evokes a sense of fear! Will there be ENOUGH? And for Christopher, it makes him think deeply about how each dollar is spent. Let’s think about this in the sense of actual spending behaviors. Since Christopher wants to reflect and think about how to spend his well earned dollars, his spending behaviors are often well thought out, researched and planned. Madelyn often is afraid there won’t be the amount of money necessary for the item needed or wanted which creates spending behaviors that can be more prompt and often more risky. So, how has this played out in marriage and creating a household of peace and harmony when it comes to finances?
Real life: Sometimes I still get really anxious when we have big house repairs or big purchases to make, even though I know budgeting has set us up to be able to make those necessary purchases.
Most times when approached about a big expense, my immediate thought is ‘how does this fit into the budget, how can we make this work?’
So if you have not already figured it out by now, Christopher really takes the lead in this marriage when it comes to budgeting and money planning.
I had to take a really hard look at myself and my feelings about money, and recognize, budgeting and financial planning is NOT my strength. It is hard for me to stay calm and think through things enough to plan a stable budget. But Christopher almost gets a rush out of it. Man, was it super hard to relinquish control of my spending and budgeting to him once we got married. I was embarrassed a bit, especially since I do think of myself as a strong, smart, independent woman.
For me, taking over the budget and planning for our family was more of a desire of not wanting to be behind the eight ball. I didn’t want us to start in a bad spot financially so soon in our marriage. Budgeting is kinda like a game to me. I like to crunch the numbers until I can see all our goals being met. We pay our bills, meet our savings and retirement goals, and still have some left over for a little fun each pay period. Once I felt we were in a productive groove, I began to notice Madelyn’s acceptance of my leadership in this aspect of our marriage. It made me feel happy to know that she was at peace, and I felt more confident as a husband.
How did this actually happen? LOTS OF COMMUNICATION, and honestly, a few…arguments…or maybe we should say, heart to hearts (with passion ). So here are our top 10 tips for when one of the spouses in the marriage has a knack for crunching the numbers and the other one, well, doesn’t.
• It is still a team approach: Just because we agreed that Christopher was gonna have the lead, does not mean I do not get a voice in our financial planning. I always ask Madelyn what items we need to plan for about one month in advance. Holidays, birthday presents, social gatherings, vacations, etc.
• Set some goals: I like goals. I could get behind this. I love planning and dreaming with Christopher. So, at the beginning of each year, we set goals. Not all of them are financial. Some of them are spiritual, relational, etc. But the financial ones often center around FUN. I need fun. Again, even though Christopher takes the lead with our budgeting, it is a team approach. Setting goals together will give each spouse a voice in what the year will look like financially. So, we usually set a monthly savings goal, a yearly savings goal (retirement related), and a vacation goal. Another goal to add could be a debt to pay off. We did this early in our marriage and now only have our house payment and my student loans. Those are just gonna take time to knock out. Oh, and don’t forget those home repair or renovation goals. We got a fixer upper, so there is stuff we have to get done! Sometimes we look at all we want to do and recognize that we may have to move some stuff to the next year, and that is OKAY! We aren’t made of money!
• Do your homework: At the beginning of taking over the family finances, I wanted to know what our expenses really were. I wanted to know what exactly our income was. I began to look harder at how we were spending our money by looking at how we were using our credit cards, how much we were spending money on food (I like food), and just other miscellaneous expenses. Both of us had gotten into a bad habit of swiping our cards without really thinking about it. I came back to Madelyn with some numbers and some plans on how we could begin to change some of our spending behaviors. I got my ideas for how to budget, change our spending behaviors, and pay off debt using videos from Dave Ramsey. That guy, he is the real MVP.
• Calendar method: We sat down with a calendar and wrote out each of our bills on the date they were due. This gave us a bird’s eye view of our month and set up good reminders to pay things that can’t be on auto draft. In addition to bills, we also listed out our paydays. Gotta have something to look forward to! We put the calendar in a visible location so it can be seen by everyone in the house at anytime
• Speaking of auto draft: We set up as many bills to be paid via auto draft as possible. We know this method may not be for everyone, but for us, it works really well. Using the calendar method listed above, we are able to anticipate when bills will be coming out of our account
• Be flexible: Flexibility has been harder for me. When I make a plan that I know has worked, I become extremely reliant on said plan. Almost attached. Real talk though, plans change, life happens, and in order to keep peace in my marriage, I have had to learn to be flexible and allow for variation with each month’s budget. Madelyn likes to be spontaneous sometimes, which as you can see, is not one of my strong suits. Apparently allowing her to be spontaneous is a good way to show her I love her. deep breath I can handle that…within reason.
• Set a spending limit: It is not realistic to think that you can check in with your spouse every time you want to spend some money. One of the first “rules” we set up was setting a limit on how much you could spend without having to check in with the other person. Now, I already shared, I get a little anxious about money, so I still often check with Christopher. BUT, we agreed that we can spend up to $50 without having to check in. Examples of this type of spending would be, a lunch out with coworkers, finding a great sale at Macys, or for Christopher, probably something related to new electronics or fitness.
• Open up about money: Seriously. Ask questions to people who have done this money thing well. Talk with trusted friends and family about your plans and questions. We have learned a lot from the most random places. That does not mean we try everything suggested, but it has made this whole money thing a lot less terrifying.
• Be generous to others: This is something I love to do. Once we really started budgeting well, we actually found places we could be generous. Taking a friend to lunch, surprising someone with a special gift, even being able to offer a friend to live with us rent free, because we had the $$ for extra utilities, etc. I have dreams that one day we will really be able to live even more generously. That is something that helps me stay motivated to stick to our budget when I feel the urge to swipe my card.
• Look at your budget more than one time per month: Don’t be afraid to look at your budget multiple times within the month, especially around paydays. Generally, I use paydays as budget setting days for the next pay period. Our pay periods are every two weeks, so normally, we have a new or revised budget by the time that the payday arrives. As the pay period progresses, the budget is being updated to reflect spending and to give us an idea of where we are within our budget before the next payday. I stick to the budget. Sometimes that means saying no, even if I do not want to, but the payoff will be so much better for our family in the long run.
Budgeting takes a lot of patience and even more practice. We certainly do not do everything right every single month when it comes to budgeting. Honestly, we are still pretty young in our marriage and know we have A LOT to learn. What we do know is that once we set up a good budgeting plan for us, the disagreements about money almost vanished. It was not an over night change, it has been an over time change. Learning to listen to one another and respect one another has been key to our success when it comes to budgeting as a married couple.
Staring back to school can be difficult for children. Often the start of a new school year brings anxiety, stress, or a decrease in confidence. Each school year brings about a variety of changes: a new teacher, new schedule, new subjects, new kids in the classroom, maybe even a new school. Think about how you might feel if you were facing this many changes! Do you remember how you felt when you started a new job or moved to a new city? It can be scary and overwhelming.
Your child is likely facing many mixed emotions and may feel unable to handle them. All of these changes and emotions can make for a difficult time after school. If you are like me, the goal is for your children to come home from school, sit down, and start homework before doing anything fun. Get the worst part out of the way right? But is that what you want to do after coming home from a long, hard day at work? Especially if you just started new job? Most likely you need a few minutes to yourself, or some time to sit down and relax.
What if you created a “relax bag” for your child? Maybe even one for yourself. When you get home from school (or work) take a few minutes, even just 5 is helpful, 10-20 is more ideal and just relax! Here’s an idea for what you might put in a child’s relax bag (also check out the image below!):
Calm down bottle • Journal • Stress ball • Pillow • Music • Bubbles • Puzzle
And don’t forget a snack!
And don’t forget a snack!
By: Amelia Worthen LPC-Intern
Supervised by Meredith Ivey LPC-S, RPT-S
Is your life like a never-ending Bangles song? One Manic Monday after another with no end in sight? Then this post is for you. Stress and poor work/home life balance can cause a lot more harm than just a tension headache, sore muscles, or relationship problems. High stress is linked to heart trouble, stroke, and even early death. YIKES!!
By adding these simple self-care strategies to your daily routine you can lower your stress levels and even possibly prolong your life!
Self-Care Tip #1: Create distinct boundaries
So many of us continue to answer email, respond to phone calls, and otherwise work for free when we are off the clock. STOP doing this! You are only hurting yourself. Instead, create good boundaries between your work time and your home life. Don’t answer those emails or phone calls after hours. Clearly articulate that you can be reached during work hours only. Free yourself from any feelings of guilt because you are helping yourself as well as others learn how to treat and respect you.
Self-Care Tip #2: Exercise
Okay, I personally suck at this one. I’m just not into running, getting hot, or sweaty even though I know it’s good for me. I have learned, however, that yoga and Pilates really help me de-stress and unwind. The deep breathing combined with somewhat less strenuous movement are more relaxing. Plus the bonus is increasing your flexibility and core strength. I strongly encourage some type of exercise at least 3 times a week. Go for a walk in your neighborhood, ride a bike, go to the gym, do yoga at home using YouTube. There are even great apps that will help you work up to exercising more often or doing short workouts when you can squeeze them into a busy schedule. I like couch to 5K, seven minute workout, and simply Yoga FREE. (Insert links)
Self-Care Tip #3: Make time to do something you enjoy
This sounds like a no brainer, but a lot of the time we don’t make FUN a priority. It gets bumped off the list as frivolous to make room for other things that feel more important. I can promise you, fun is extremely important! We need this in order to refresh, enjoy life, and remind ourselves why we do all the other stuff. Make time to do the things you love; go shopping, build something, plant a garden, arrange flowers, go out with friends, attend book club, play video games, cook/bake, watch a movie or tv show, etc. I know a lot of people probably want to add drinking alcohol to this list. I don’t blame you at all, but be wary of using alcohol as a self-care method. It should not be used as one. Since alcohol is a depressant it will often times leave you feeling worse in the long run than better, healthy, or productive. I’m not saying you can’t drink of course, just don’t use drinking as self-care. I personally enjoy watching movies/tv shows, gardening, and shopping. I also love the spa!!! Hello massage and facials
Self-Care Tip #4: Meditate
It might sound hokey to some, but I believe this can be the key to creating peace in your life. You can call it whatever you want if Meditation sounds too weird, but crave out 5 to 10 minutes a few times a day to just be. Use an app like Calm to get started. This will help you clear your mind, reset yourself, and after consistent use you will definitely feel much more relaxed and at peace with things. Another benefit of using the Calm app is that you will get access to other helpful tools like sleep stories, sleep sounds, and body scan. Some of the app is free and others are locked and require you to purchase the app, but either way you still great benefits. I encourage you to try meditation three times a day; once in the morning, once in the afternoon, and once in the evening (before bed). If that is too difficult, try once a day and build up from there.
Self-Care Tip #5: Eat well
Again, I’m not so great at this one but I know the better you eat the better you feel. I just can’t seem to say no to sweets! UGH! Therefore, I go with the moderation approach. I can have a little bit in small amounts. I try to be diligent about balancing meals; protein, veggies, fruits, carbs, etc. About a year ago I severely cut back on my caffeine intake by cutting out most soda. I drink Green Tea, Sprite, and other low caffeine options plus tons of water. I can’t really say enough about drinking LOTS of water other than it makes a HUGE difference. My skin is clearer, I have less headaches, I have more energy, and I sleep better. All because I drink more water. I encourage you all to really try it. I also would recommend you eat something high in protein before doing anything mentally or physically strenuous. Big tasks require more fuel. Treat your body well and it will repay you later.
I hope you enjoyed these tips/tricks. Where just one of these could start to change your life; they are much more effective when done together. Make a few changes, add these to your routine, and enjoy your new peaceful existence.
By: Meredith Ivey, LPC-S, RPT-S
t’s a good idea to offer your children rewards. Not just for doing their chores or for good grades, but randomly offering a reward when you catch them doing something you appreciate. As parents we give consequences when we catch children misbehaving, yet often fail to offer rewards in the same way. These rewards do not need to be big, just a little thing that reciprocates the good behavior. Offering rewards in this way not only encourages that behavior, but builds the connection between you and your children.
When offering rewards you are able to learn more about your child by paying attention to the rewards they choose. Take note of the rewards your child picks and learn from this so you can continue to show them love in the way they feel it best. This is a sample rewards chart based on Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. This chart is intended for younger children. You may want to make adjustments based on your child’s gender and age. If your children are old enough to participate have them help you make this chart.
Sample Rewards For Each Love Language:
• 10 minutes of extra cuddle time before bed
• 5 min foot rub
Words of Affirmation:
• Written compliment
• Mom or Dad will share at the dinner table why they are proud of you.
• Mom or Dad will pick up a surprise for you from the store
• Pick a prize from the prize box
Acts of Service:
• Help with your chore
• Mom will make your bed for you
• 15 min of one on one time
• Go on a walk with mom or dad
Here is a printable chart you could use to let your children pick their reward.
Some alternatives might be:
Touch: If you have a young girl, you might paint her nails or toes.
Acts of Service: Help your child with a fun project they have been wanting to do. Clean out your child’s car if they drive.
Quality Time: Just sit and watch your child play, be there while he does what he enjoys.
Gifts: This does not have to be expensive, it IS the thought that counts. Buy them their favorite meal for diner, or just a fun new pair of socks.
Words of Affirmation: Send a note in their lunch box, or buy a card and leave it on their bed.
Be creative and have fun finding new ways to show your children how much you love them!